Out Of Control

We, as a society, are either trying to control everything and everyone around us, or we are being steamed rolled, and controlled by every new thing that upsets the status quo. We are living in a constant game of tug of war! No wonder we are a stressed out, fearful, anxious, intense, competitive, depressed and angry generation. We are out of control.
I was a control freak! I equated having control with happiness and being worthy of love. I was not happy or valuable unless; the house was clean, my to do list boxes were checked, the day's schedule stayed on schedule, and everyone around me did what I asked them to do without me asking them more than once. I was entangled in the chains of perfectionism, unable to move on with anything else in my life unless everything I was currently doing was perfect first. It wasn’t until I became a mom that I recognized my chains. It was as if God gave me children to free me from my self inflicted captivity. Although, I didn’t look at it in that way…

It's No Accident

I love being a mom….now, It wasn’t always that way. When I first found out that I was going to become a mom, I was terrified. In no way was I prepared for what was coming my way. Naturally, I did what any first time mom would do, I read every parenting book I could get my hands on. However, I still struggled immensely. All the books I read seemed to contradict each other. I was confused, stressed out and full of anxiety during the first 4 years of being a mom.
I was at my wit's end. Since we were the first in our group to become pregnant none of my friends understood or had any pearls of wisdom to pass down to me. I had never felt more alone in my life. I even began to resent my children, believing they were holding me back from my true calling. When I thought about them I felt a sense of dread. I knew in my heart I was failing, and I feared being cooped up in the house with them, especially during the rapidly approaching Minnesota winter.
One day I was sitting in my little offi…

Seeking Together: Painting A New Picture

A couple of years ago I wrote a piece called: I don’t know about you, but I just can’t do it! The purpose of the post addressed a very real struggle I was having trying to squeeze in my quiet time with the Lord. Whenever I would share this bit of information with another believing mom, they would pull out the age old answer, do it before the kids get up. Their response was accompanied with glazed over eyes, slumped shoulders, and a tell that gave them away. This wasn’t really working for them either.
Every time I tried to follow their advice, my children seem to acquire super hearing strength in their sleep. Suddenly they were up the stairs to join me moments after my feet hit the floor. The idea to get up before the children was romantic, just not realistic. It just never panned out the way I pictured it in my mind. So, I decided to paint a new picture, a picture that worked for me and myfamily.
The new picture was to have my children do Jesus Time alongside me. By painting my own p…

When There Are No Visitors

People think hospitality consists only of the mundanity of cooking, cleaning, laundry and repeat. But oh no, it is so much more than this! It is creating an atmosphere charged with power to speak and give life, unlocking and drawing forth who people really are. It is creating a safe haven, a place where people want to retreat, retire, and return to after encountering the harsh cold world of competition outside the front door. Hospitality gives us an opportunity to be the cup of cool water to the least of these.
When a tree falls in the woods does it make a sound? When you have no visitors in your home, is it filled with hospitality?
I pose a similar question on week two of Foundation Of Character to my children. I ask them; “If we are supposed to practice hospitality every day, how do we do it on days when we have no visitors?” The answer, and my not so hidden agenda for them, is of course to show hospitality to their family members. Honestly, it was the original reason for engaging my …

Does Unconditional Love Really Exist?

Prologue In conjunction with the release of the Foundation Of Character this past month, I have decided to do a blog series expanding on the ‘Encouragement For Parents’ portion of the devotional. This section of the book is designed to speak to parents in a way to let them know they are not alone in their struggle on this pilgrimage of parenthood.
In order to teach my children about God's character I found that my own foundation needed some suring up first. This week and in the eleven to follow, I will be sharing all about my struggles, misconceptions, and growth in the areas of: Love, Hospitality,Intercession, Initiative, Self-Control, Endurance, Faith,Flexibility, Gentleness, Humility, Joyfulness, and Patience.
On To Love, Or Unconditional Love Rather.
Most people struggle with the concept of love, let alone unconditional love. I was definitely one of those people.
If you are like me, you have spent most of your life seeking other people's approval. Some of these included par…