Making A Home VS. Making A House

It All Has To Do With Perspective

There is a difference between making a home and making a house. 
What you will find here is encouragement in making a home.



A home is focused on the people who live in the house. 
A home in focused on the relationships with those who live in the house. 
A home is focused on meeting your loved ones needs verse doing house work.

It is easy to get wrapped up in our to do list. It's only natural checking things off your to do list is really rewarding. It give us as wives and homemakers a sense of accomplishment. A sense that we are earning our "keep". A way to prove that we are doing our job. We equate a clean and orderly home with a job well done. But, My question is why? Because we are trying to prove something to the social standard?  So we been over backwards and lose our tempers with the ones we love to meet an ideal painted by a picture in a magazine, or a T.V. show, or that women that you think has it all together. (I have been that women who others think 'has it together' and trust me I don't.) These ideals are impossible to up hold especially if you are like me with 5 children 7 yrs and under. Those who come to my home know that we actually live there so guess what there are going to be dirty dishes in the sink, toys on the floor, unfinished school projects on the table, and laundry to be folded. 

But if you come into my home I will drop everything I am doing to invest in my relationship with you because you are more valuable to me than everything my house contains. (other than my husband and children ; ) )  And this is the perspective I have chosen to live by. This is the ideal that I have chosen to set as my standard rather than the one society wants to bury me with.



It is the perspective of people first, things second. I will intentionally drop everything to invest in my husband and children. Why because in the grand scheme of things with my husbands job he is home and awake a total amount of 42 hours a week. As where those dishes, and laundry never leave!!!!!! In the same manner the amount of time my sweet children will actually want to climb up on my lap and have me read them a story is growing shorter with every day that passes.  These truths grab at my heart and I don't want to miss a moment. 

So how in the world do I maintain the house while I make a home? Again it all comes back to perspective. I found that once I started to live in this new way that peace entered my home. My children enjoyed the time they had with me and then went on there merry little way until they needed to connect with me again. In those moment I meet their other needs. Notice I didn't say I do house work. Everything I do in my home is for one purpose and one purpose only to meet the heart and physical needs of my family because I love them. 

Perspective changes everything. Chores are no longer chores they are acts of love. I do laundry because I want my family to be clothed in clean clothes because I love them. I make them breakfast, lunch and dinner not because I have to. My husband in more than capable and willing to. But I do it because I want my family to be well feed especially my husband after a had a hard physical days work. It probably won't be on the table when he walks through the door, but when it makes its way to the table it's hot, somewhat healthy, and satisfying. 

In choosing to live in the manner of putting people first, and things second I have had to become a better manager of myself and learn new ways to manage my home from what I grew up learning. I will be sharing these things in future post. 

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